It’s only when a relationship lessens your walk with God that it becomes unGodly. He wants to be the number one person we come to when we run into problems, when we are scared, or need someone to talk to. I know it’s selfish and wrong to continue on with this relationship, but how can I honestly tell him that I made a mistake when it’s only been a couple weeks. Ivan DeLuce contributed to an earlier version of this article. Love & Light Justine. Hi, I'm Justine a certified dating and relationship coach who has been blogging on here since 2017. Four Signs You Might Need to End a Dating Relationship Now 1. And I don’t know any other Religion in the world that does. Over the last two months, I have felt disconnected from him and have informed him of some things I’d like him to be doing, like going to church regularly. I have been so BLESSED by it. While I really don’t want to encourage any of you to treat God like a genie who will cater to unrealistic expectations of a man. Exodus 20:14. I do see a few red flags here, but actually with your behavior rather than his. Because Communication In A Relationship … I like him, but I guess I am a little uncertain/nervous. There is a guy at work who likes me, but I keep questioning if he is the one, but after reading this, I see he is not. If you feel like you’re being neglected or mistreated it’s a sign that that relationship should end. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in … And only if the two of you can stick up for each other, your relationship can survive. Thank you for this, I recently met someone so unexpectedly and everything that your listing mentions is everything I have found in him. please help I can’t really talk to the people in my life about it because they say my standards are too high. Woooww this is a great comment! When I look at him, I see me, us! The truth is the best relationships are the ones where the couple considers each other as best friends and truly share their lives with each other. That man will call, will text and he will enjoy planning a date or two to make you happy. If being with him doesn’t compromise your relationship with God, but rather strengthens it. They pull you away from your relationship with God; Those we build our lives around, the people who are closest to us, are the ones who can either help bring us close to God, or pull us farther away. questions, this may be a sign that God is telling you to run. Sometimes we read so much information and become so confused about relationships we feel like we are losing our minds. You should focus on yourself and pray that God brings you the person that is best for you, even if it is not your ex. Sometimes a persons past scars can have a bearing on their beliefs, they just don’t understand about God. So if you find yourself not being able to He has a desire for sharing gospel with other people. We both have feelings for each other but i said I’m not looking for anyone when I pray on my alone time n boom this person showed up. All I can assume is that God will only give me the attraction once I commit to him in blind faith and marry him. He was giving a lot of cues that he really liked me and brought up getting a coffee or lunch, but I’m afraid I’ve been acting too cool/reserved and given him the impression that I’m not interested. I recently lost a r/ship of 5 yrs, i’m a Christian, they were a non believer, i touched on God with them more than any other previous 2 long term relationships i was in including my first where i was married to a Christian woman, i just didn’t want to push it because they had a past of being physically and verbally abused by men. You will know the answer to that by how much he supports and encourages you in your pursuit. constant regret and fighting then it’s time to prayerfully ask God for guidance Now this one is an important one! I didn’t like the guy but I could feel that his the one, I had to learn to love him and now I love him with all my heart. As I know it’s not Godly to be sleeping together out of marriage ,as we are. Hi Christina, I completely understand your dilemma. I’m a Christian he’s a Muslim (different beliefs) ….I cut all contact because I love GOD more And don’t wanna commit adultery in my heart and he’s a distraction , it hurts because we’re best friends, and we are first loves ( his wife knows about us.) While I don’t think you should tell him that he was just your time killer for the summer. Here are some signs that God may be about to bless you with a great relationship. give me a sound mind and clear judgment. Hey Ab, I will absolutely keep you in my prayers. It’s been a struggle for me to trust him. There is a very real assumption that if you feel comfortable around your Adam started out as one. For example, one day I was asking God to give me the words “go ahead” if He wanted me to pursue this woman. When we have no control over our thoughts One of the many signs that you are dating someone that just isn’t that into you is that he will not put in any effort to be with you. masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will My mum married the wrong man, yet I pray God’s mercy, grace and blessings will be with her. Whether you’re in a relationship or still waiting for your one great love, it’s important that you’re able to distinguish a bad relationship from a good one. Amen, We were best friends since high school , went our separate ways and married other people, we’ve know each other for 30+years and for over the past 8 years we have been in an emotional long distance relationship…. She often told me that it really hurt her that they don’t both believe the same things about life after death. what does bible say? February 23, 2018 Airyl Marie Dadula Leave a Comment. If we as Christians genuinely love the unbeliever we are with, pray to God daily with all your heart to reveal the truth to them about God, stay calm and never give up instead of walking away. Do you find yourself out of control when you’re with this person? And though your “Boaz” may need alot of grace and support (that you may be able to give him), keep in mind that you aren’t called to be his savior. But the person you choose to marry can either help lead to heaven or drag you down to hell with them. (I was leaving Guadeloupe about two weeks after that). I know you don’t know the whole situation, but even if you just read this and pray about it I know that would be a great help. Hey Nicole, thanks for sharing this. I realize now God might be placing a calling of marriage on my life and the nature of it is to stretch and grow us both. What was I thinking? In this post, I share signs God is protecting you from a bad relationship. Please we should not get confused. May Glod bless you ~, Hey Esther, I’m glad to hear that. I see how immature I was and how God might be blessing me now by keeping me from marriage for years, yet I still have fear to marry. They won’t succeed this evil plans on God’s children. Required fields are marked *. However I began to notice a couple of red flags, he would talk about how hard it was to hold back on sexual temptation,then he brought up how he thinks about it all the time, and this also lead my mind astray. Lionel was a good friend of mine and we often hung out together in our larger friendship circle. When you have a true bond that is built on real intimacy and not just physical attraction you will enjoy spending time together and talking for hours so much more. And while I do believe that the way to finding the one is by putting in time and effort, I also know that there are ways you can be more effective. What we haven’t understood is this: There’s nothing wrong with your unsaved loved one (or any other unsaved person) except the devil. The enemy wants us to just do what we feel and give in to our base senses. So ask yourself the following questions: Does he have your back when life is hard? Here is a testimony with Signs from God. You have to understand that our mind will protect us from anything that harms us, meaning that if you subconsciously fear that he is not good for you and are stressed about it, it will induce stress hormones that can look like anxiety. The Bible calls us to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers in 2 Corinthians 6:14. Someone that is not Christian is an unbeliever. I pray that you receive God’s divine guidance to navigate through this situation. How God leads you to your spouse can be mysterious. Plus we spoke about purity and waiting til marriage, etc. He wants the best, in fact. You are doing well by protecting her from a distance and entrusting it to the lord. Informative. because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of It sounds to me like you don’t have peace about this relationship. We have FaceTimed a few times and messaged each other however within the last week I have tried to reach out to him by text , calling and messaging him but it just haven’t received a response . I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and struggle with anxiety. Healthy relationships involve commitment, self-awareness, and empathy. I told him that I don’t have to feel this pain in order to own him, what was meant to be mine will find me but seems like on his side easy comes easy goes so please advise me what to do. Hi jus,have dated this guy for a yr before I realize he has a kid,his friends keep saying this guy is hiding a lot of things for me.I don’t call him but he always calls me these days.l pray God bring me the man he knows is the best for me.Thank you very much . out. I pray that this encourages and helps the faith of many. How people interpret signs from God, a look from a stranger or even street signs on any given street, begins in each and every individual's own mind. Comments. Due to some circumstances that I had recently he returned with his quest. You start to wonder how many frogs you will have to kiss until you find your prince. When I’m seeing some of the signs I’m telling myself could he be the one? If peace cannot be found and there is As a single woman in my 30’s it’s easy to get frustrated and sometimes exhausted from dating. hey there, i recently met a Godly man online, we have chatted for 8 months and met twice. Feeling uneasy can provide us great clarity. What does God have to do with our relationships? I dont want our desires to be fulfilled but I want the will of God. Anyway, keep us in prayer as we are older and lots of people are getting married older. And while being in this relationship could be a growing experience for you both, it may not be God’s will for you to entertain the idea of marriage. Ask God what He thinks about your relationship and what needs to change — regardless of if it's to end the relationship or to continue into marriage. I married the wrong one. The best way to test that is to observe his actions when he’s around you. Too often we think respecting someone only refers to the way we speak to them. I have been praying but not gotten any conviction about him yet whether to accept him or not.. In any relationship romantic or otherwise, there must be clear boundaries established. It had only been a week, but it was really bothering me that someone who claimed to follow God spoke this way and never attempted to call or meet me. 1Cor 14:33. He doesn’t even go to church anymore and he can’t give me an answer as to when he may want to go. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. I believe in sexual purity before marriage as it is a mark of being justified by your faith and truly desire to serve god. And that’s very true! A relationship is unGodly if it lessens your walk with God. Be blessed. Hi! My question is is me praying for him mean that he is going through a rough time and that the Lord is working in his circumstance and does it mean that he is my future even though I am seeking God’s will about my friend? Thank You! agreed? Intact I prayed for a my perfect man and God literally answered my prayer the very next day. But i am the one who comes to him when we “mess up” and tell him how awful i feel. Here are 3 signs God does approve of a relationship. You will start to trust him, not just with the relationship but with your life, goals, and future. We all know the saying and the movie “He’s just not that into you”. Hi Justine – I loved your article. Help please. Here Are 7 Signs Of A Dying Relationship 1. Our God is not the author of confusion. Now we are in a long-distance relationship, have met each others families and friends. Among other things.He never protects me either. I can’t go back to my country now cos I’m still tied up with school and I intend on staying where I am. Many men will speak about all the things they want to do, but only a few will actually follow up and put in the work. Many of us enter into relationships because we feel so connected or in love with that person, but if the relationship directly violates God’s word, that’s a clear sign that that relationship is not one God approves. If you don’t understand, talk to God about it. We both Christians same church but now I don’t know either to be patient with him to end up the relationship his in or what. Sometimes no sign is a sign as well. It’s just who you are. God Bless. you.”  Matthew 6:33. I have known my boyfriend for sometime now. Use of Nature. Keep God in your relationships and they will be Godly! but these qualities greatly cause me distress… we are both in our 30s and have kids from previous marriages. i have a question ,there is a young man who loves me so much want me as his girlfriend.He is agood person ,fears GOD and he has most qualities that you mentioned but i dont love him .what should i do ,one reason asto whyb i dont like him is because we dont have the same reasoning. He won’t say one thing and do another. disagreements because they never took the take to discuss and agree upon I agree with all of these, especially the action speak louder then words and pursuing you. It’s about relationship. I can’t not stop thinking and caring and praying for him!! 6:14. and anyone. I am also a single Christian and I am a bit older than you. 3:3. You can’t say you trust your boyfriend or girlfriend, but you don’t trust the … Blessings, Justine. If you feel like you have to give up on your calling in order to be with him, then it means the relationship is not aligned with God’s purpose for you. I don’t know, what I think. This list is reassurance of the peace we feel along with how effortless our encounter has been since we met. I am very close to the Lord and value my relationship with God more than anything. how can I know God already told him am the one and I already know but not convinced he knows. Enjoy the time you spend together and observe his words and actions. Fact is every relationship, no matter if romantic or not, will either add to your life or subtract from it. And some of the signs God is leading you to the one that I have witnessed include: I hope these signs God wants you to be with someone helped you discern your current relationship better. And I am praying for both. Or does he ask you to pick up a call if he’s busy? As Astrology Tells Us, Everyone Can't Be Great At Everything. The man God has for you will make you feel comfortable investing. Meaning the ‘confusion’ you are experiencing is a tell-tale sign that something is off. God wants us to be wise, logical and sensibly. Easy. If you have a question, query or story you’d like to share with Now this is something you will need to pray about and make sure that God is allowing you guys to be together it’s very important because I have seen situations where a woman tries to attend and practice the same beliefs as the husband but the wife didn’t feel like she fit in husband (baptist) and wife (apostolic) the Husband didn’t like the apostolic movement and wife felt like baptist isn’t radical enough for her so just an idea of what unequally yoked up with someone who isn’t in the same belief can cause the two of you to have problems later. If he’s the right one for you, he will support you when you face challenges and vice versa and the two of you will make each other better. and what communion hath My boyfriend fits all of these. He is loving, caring, loves God respects me, motivates me to keep praying, motivates me to keep on loving God. I want to encourage you that God knows you and knows the man he has for you. I’ve also seen that he’s been trying to make things right but for some reason it’s really hard for me to believe him at times… to the point of questioning if he truly has a relationship with God like he says he does. just a question though, say you have such guy who is like this, he is 10yrs older than i’m and my closest friend, he loves me even and in every way but i’m not attracted to him like that, i like him as a friend but not in that way. People who share the same sign in a relationship are very similar to those whose relationship is six signs apart. Sometimes when a big blessing is about to come, we just feel it in our bones. Hey Nadia, I’m glad your sister has you. You Just Feel It. A lot of times you will even notice that God is leading you to the one, by using your purpose. Because even I want to share my life with someone that love God and serve him seriosly. Learn more about some of the warning signs that your relationship is harmful to your physical and emotional health and well-being. I know I’m in trouble when I . I can't tell if it's my gut or just my fear. Let me be patient, he knows what he wants and I’m a exactly what he want. There is certainly biblical evidence for the personal leading of the Holy Spirit in our lives like we talked about in point 3, but hearing God in this way is definitely open to making mistakes. The series generated hundreds of comments from readers who found themselves in a similar place. I commend you for honestly admitting that you made a decision out of loneliness. me. As in, he hasn’t proposed or anything but he’s a potential. If your standards align with God, its definitely not to high and you shouldn’t believe what a person says, you should be believing what God says. So I’ve asked God to deal with this, that he will keep this man away from my sister and show her a deeper intimacy with Jesus, that she will not be desperate for a relationship with a person that does not make an efford to see her. God and mammon. We’ve had our ups and downs. The keyword here is ‘I want to be with’. If the relationship has become a catalyst I tried explaining to her how serious I don’t want the break up but she kept saying it that she would only come back to me when ever she see a sign from God that I’m the right person, but for months now she haven’t seen any sign please what should I do ? But it’s time to look at the early signs of a good relationship and what makes it healthy. 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